New habits are a challenge! Replacing one habit with another is positively life-changing. This month gave me the shortest amount of time and, because of school break, a slight return to life before 2014. That’s completely fine. I’m in the last week of February, and I’m going to try my best to get back on track.
And prepare for Lent, which is right around the corner!
But first, I’d like to re-visit the goals I made for February, and share with you what worked, and what didn’t.
1) Listen to my kids when they are speaking to me. I have a bad habit of letting my kids go on and on until I sense that some sort of response is required, and that’s when I say: “Oh, nice.” Yeeeaah…poor listening skills modeled there, that’s for sure. I forgot to practice attentive listening most of the time this month, mostly because I didn’t realize I was tuning them out until I heard myself give the thoughtless remark. But there were some times when I did actually stop what I was doing to listen well, and I will continue to work hard on this basic practice of good manners. If what they are telling me is important to them, it can be important to me.
2) Time alone with God. I absolutely loved adding this to my day! (Finally!!) It’s not completely “alone” time, but when my kids are older these 15 minutes will eventually be more suitable for contemplative prayer. For now, this is what I’m doing to get in the habit of daily prayer:
Before school starts at 9 am, I sit in the living room, pull out my phone, open the Laudate app, and start off by praying Terce, the prayers of the Divine Office (Liturgy of the Hours) that are said at 9 am all over the world. (I figure I’m close enough!) Then, I read and pray the readings and prayers for the Mass of the day and the Saint of the day. Next I read a reflection on the readings from Mass, and spend some time reflecting on everything I’ve prayed and read. I end by moving the the prie dieu to kneel and ask God to be with me throughout the day. I spend as much time as I can there, and then I announce to the boys that it’s time for Family Morning Prayers.
3) Breakfast Devotions and Family Prayer Time. I think I remembered to do something at breakfast twice. The main obstacle to this habit is that we don’t all eat breakfast at the same time. I see lots of other homeschool moms out there with a set time for breakfast, and maybe this needs to happen first. The 2-year-old in our home gets up at 6:30, the 6-year-old get up at 7/7:30, and the 4-year old gets up at 8. I could try giving the 2 year old a little something to eat at 6:30, and then wait for the other two for the “real breakfast” when the 4-year-old is awake.
Family prayer time became more consistent when I added it to my own prayer routine. Usually, the boys are close by while I’m saying my morning prayers, so I’ve started reading the saint of the day out loud, since the breakfast devotions haven’t been made a habit yet. When I finish my own morning prayers at the kneeler, I call the boys to me for family prayer. We say familiar Catholic prayers like the Hail Mary, Angel of God, and a brief Morning Offering. I also read the Collect from the day’s Mass (on my phone again, on CatholicCulture.org).
So many good things have happened since I started all these routines, habits, and prayers. I thank God for His patience with me in taking many years to finally DO what He put in my heart a long time ago. I pray for the grace of perseverance, and I pray to keep the end in sight, the reason for all these new habits: a closer relationship with God and my family.
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