St. Paul says, “Sing hymns!”

This morning, on the Feast of the Holy Family, we read the Epistle from St. Paul as a blueprint for a holy, happy family life. As a mother who’s always looking for guidance, I tried to pay close attention to what St. Paul says. What are the essential virtues and practices of family life?

First, here are St. Paul’s words:

EPISTLE (Col. 3:12-17)
Brethren: Put ye on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, the bowels of mercy, benignity, humility, modesty, patience: Bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if any have a complaint against another. Even as the Lord hath forgiven you, so do you also. But above all these things have charity, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of Christ rejoice in your hearts, wherein also you are called in one body: and be ye thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you abundantly: in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms, hymns and spiritual canticles, singing in grace in your hearts to God. All whatsoever you do in word or in work, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.

 

Now I’m going to put those wise words into a list. I’m a visual learner, and lists help me.

Some virtues specifically mentioned to practice:
Mercy
Benignity (Kindness)
Humility
Modesty
Patience
Charity

 

St. Paul’s tips on how to act:
Bear with one another’s faults
Forgive one another
Let the peace of Christ rejoice in your heart
Be thankful
Let the word of Christ dwell in you abundantly
Teach and admonish one another in psalms, hymns and spiritual canticles
Sing in grace in your hearts to God
Do all in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ
Again, give thanks to God

 

Later on, we get specifics for each family member:

 

Wives:
Be subject to your husbands

 

Husbands:
Love your wives and be not bitter towards them

 

Children: 
Obey your parents in all things

 

Fathers:
Do not provoke your children to indignation, lest they be discouraged.

 

Wow! Did St. Paul miss anything? He was pretty thorough! As I look over the list, an image of a peaceful family comes to mind. And of course, on this feast day, I realize that the only family in history who lived this list perfectly was the Holy Family.

 

What a beautiful life to aspire to! Even if our family continually fails in practicing certain virtues, it is still worth every effort to persevere and try again, with every new day, to be more and more like the Holy Family.

 

And did you notice something – MUSIC is included in St. Paul’s list!

 

…in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms, hymns and spiritual canticles, singing in grace in your hearts to God.
Colossians 3-16
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The most perfect way to follow St. Paul’s suggestion is to sing the Divine Office. David Clayton, co-author of  “The Little Oratory”
says:

 

Pray the Liturgy of the Hours in the family.  This is perhaps the single most important item.  Where possible the father, as head of the family, should lead the prayer and it should be sung.  Wherever possible the psalms should be sung and the prayer should be oriented towards a sacred image or images. 

 

 – from the article “How do We Develop the Cultural Sensibilities of Children?”  (well worth the read!)

 

If you feel way out of your league singing the Divine Office, I encourage you to take it upon yourself to work your way up to it. Learn it for yourself, and then, if you have children (or a spouse), teach them! The Mundelein Psalter is my recommended version to start with. The way the text is pointed to the psalm tones makes sense, and is easy to get used to. PLUS, they have a great website that has audio for the psalm tones and most of the hymns!! It’s SO much easier to learn a song when you can hear it!

Another way to bring hymns to your family life is by adding them to your family prayers, like morning, evening, or rosary. Tying in the hymns to the month’s dedication is what I like to do. (So in January, dedicated the the Holy Name, I make sure we sing “O Holy Name” a few times during the month. Or during May, we sing a variety of Marian hymns.) Then there are hymns in honor of certain saints, and those are great to sing on their feast days! Simple things, here.

But I find things go easier if I have the hymns memorized, that way I can just sing them anytime for my kiddos to hear. So we’re back to self-education. Learning hymns, chants, and how to read chant becomes a skill that really does help your spiritual life. After all, St. Augustine said, famously:

“He who sings, prays twice.”

I’m here to help you get started on your way to blending sacred music into your family life. Please, if you have any questions, connect with me on Google+, or comment below.

For some hymns to learn, please visit Catholic Songs to Learn & Sing.

 

If you are homeschooling, check out my plans for a 12-year Catholic Hymn Study.

 

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How We Use Playmobil During Advent and Christmas

Kids just can’t wait for new toys at Christmas, so doesn’t it make sense to use toys to make it through Advent? No? Yes? Maybe?

There are two Playmobil sets that stay up in our attic all year, but one of them was brought down today: The Playmobil Nativity Manger with Stable. I decided that somehow, this priceless set could help the boys prepare for Christmas. Boys are so hands-on, after all.

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Figuring out where everything goes...

Figuring out where everything goes…

 

It didn’t take long to get it all set up, and this is what it looks like as an empty stable:

 

The Empty Stable

The Empty Stable

 

At this point, because we are doing the “Spiritual Christmas Crib” together as a family, I reminded them about Day 1, which was about the Stable, and then introduced Day 2, which was the Roof. Everything made sense to the boys, as they touched and looked at the toy stable and roof. It was easy to imagine how their roof better not have any holes in it, or else Baby Jesus will get wet. All day today, there were PLENTY of opportunities to point out the “uncharitable remarks” that were heard; I reminded them that now, there were holes in the roof, and they would need to fix them by “loving my neighbor as myself” – as Day 2 suggests.

As I look ahead in the Spiritual Christmas Crib daily prayers, I see that we have almost ALL of the items as pieces in this set, so I am just so thrilled to make this so “real” for the boys, and also so fun!!

And where are Mary and St. Joseph? They are journeying through our home, making their way to the stable. Every day or so, I will hide them, and the boys will find them somewhere. (Got that brilliant idea from Catholic Inspired!)

 

Mary and Joseph

 

The Playmobil Three Wise Kings are going to come down from the attic the day after Christmas, and make their way to the stable just in time for January 6th. Judging by how the older two talked excitedly about last year, I have a feeling this is our new family tradition that they will talk about fondly when they have kids of their own!

 

The boys set up the stable...all ready for Mary and Joseph to arrive!

The boys set up the stable…all ready for Mary and St. Joseph to arrive!

 

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God bless you this Advent!

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