Stations of the Cross at Home

Going to Stations of the Cross at 7:30 PM with our four boys (right now they are 6 and under) is not going to happen this Lent, or for many more Lents for that matter. For now, my husband and I take turns week by week.  (It feels more like a vacation than a sacrifice, but pretend you didn’t read that!)

The boys don’t have to wait to pray the Stations until they are all well-behaved enough to attend this beautiful Lenten devotion, though. There are many great ideas on the web for how to pray the Stations at home with your kids, and I’ll share some of the ones I love, and give you a little tour of the Stations at our home.

Two resources that inspired me are Holy Heroes and Catholic Heritage Curricula.

From Holy Heroes, I bought their CD of the Stations of the Cross.  It is a dramatic presentation; it feels like the events of the Stations are happening in our living room. We hear the shouts of the crowds, the horses neighing, the soldiers yelling, the cross dragging on the road…

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It is relatively long (about 30 minutes), and the Holy Heroes website recommends giving little ones coloring books of the Stations while the others are praying. I haven’t yet tried this, and we haven’t used the CD to actually pray the Stations.  The boys just listened. And asked a thousand questions. (Love these moments!)

From Catholic Heritage Curricula, I bought 4 X 6 prints of the Stations of the Cross. They are from Italy, and are traditional prints that were familiar to me.  I attached them with mounting puddy to the woodwork above our windows and doors throughout the first floor of our home.

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The traditional prayers for the Stations are included on the Laudate app that I use daily, and that’s easy – and free – to use for now, but I’d rather give the boys booklets to hold.   I’ve seen some Stations of the Cross for children, but most of them have ugly pictures and/or awkward prayers. Two that look promising are sold by Holy Heroes and Catholic Heritage Curricula: Stations of the Cross Prayer Book for Children and Walking with Jesus to Calvary. Has anyone used these and would you recommend them?

Here are what the stations look like at our home:

We start the Stations in the living room.

We start the Stations in the living room.

Then move to the dining room for 3 more stations.

We move on to the dining room for 3 more stations. This is the 7th Station: Jesus Falls the Second Time

The 9th Station: Jesus Falls the Third Time - in the dining room

The 9th Station: Jesus Falls the Third Time – in the dining room

And by the way, Jesus probably would fall down in our dining room because there is always a Lego minefield in this room.

And by the way, Jesus probably would fall down in our dining room because there is always a Lego minefield in this room!

Stations 10 and 11 in the kitchen.

Stations 10 and 11 in the kitchen.

I made sure the 12th station was in a place that I will be able to see it often: this hangs in the kitchen on the way to the hallway.

I made sure the 12th station was in a place that I would be able to see it often: this hangs in the kitchen on the way to the hallway.

14th Station: Jesus is Laid in the Tomb - in the hallway

14th Station: Jesus is Laid in the Tomb – in the hallway, and we have completed the circle around the house.

 

I thought about putting all the Stations in a row in the hallway to resemble how it is at Church, but then decided that it would be nice to see pictures of the Passion of Christ all over the downstairs…they serve as a reminder in every room to think about Jesus’ sufferings and death.

May you have a blessed first full week of Lent!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grace from Marriage Will Help Your Parenting

I was really inspired by the extra daily reading on CatholicCulture.org last week, “A Parent’s Blueprint for Making Youth Holy” by Fr. Daniel Egan, S.A.. (1956)

It reminded me that I have much to learn/review about how grace plays a crucial part in making a marriage holy and fulfilling. It also renewed my confidence in our family’s decision to homeschool. What sparked my interest most, though, was Fr. Egan’s points about how the graces from the Sacrament of Matrimony are guaranteed to be available to parents to help their children grow in holiness.

In case anyone were to doubt the positive role of parents in the sanctification of youth, it may be well to remember that this is actually one of the primary ends of marriage. And because it is, Our Blessed Lord has mercifully arranged it so that every valid, Christian marriage guarantees husband and wife all the graces they need to cooperate in their children’s sanctification. This is so, because it is impossible to have a valid Christian marriage without its being a holy Sacrament. The contract is the Sacrament. The mutual consent is the outward sign which gives grace. That is why those making this contract confer the Sacrament on each other. The priest is just the witness.

So, all the graces that my husband and I need to help our children to be holy are available to us through the Sacrament of Marriage. While we are in the state of grace, we can access grace from God and transmit it to our children:

By nature and by grace, Christian fathers and mothers in a valid marriage are God’s human instruments of grace. They not only sanctify each other, but most certainly sanctify their children.

Have confidence that you, the parent, can raise happy, God-loving children. It is by God’s design that the parents have the most influence on their children:

More than any retreat or mission, more than any spiritual book of exercise, yes, more than any priest or religious, parents themselves, in Holy Marriage, can lead their own children so very close to God. They can do this by the graces they channel into the souls of their children and by the power of example.

But how do we access the graces? I am not a theologian by any means, so correct me if I’m wrong: if I am in the state of grace, I can pray for patience, and I will receive the grace to act patiently. Then I must cooperate with grace by saying no to impatience, and saying yes to patience. The Holy Ghost will lead me, and strengthen me, to act patiently.

In a valid Catholic marriage, husband and wife receive Sacramental graces AND Sanctifying graces. Whenever we are confused about how to handle a child’s new inclination to some bad habit or sin, God is there, ready to give you understanding and grace to handle the situation with love, patience, and guidance.  God IS a loving Father Who wants to help us in every way He can.

In other words, husband and wife do not receive all the grace of the Sacrament at one time. Rather, once they enter this sacramental state they have the right to receive all the actual graces especially needed to fulfill the ends of marriage.

But one of the final ends of marriage is the sanctification of children. Therefore, parents must receive the actual graces to accomplish that end! They receive those sacramental graces as they are needed and when they are needed.

And again:

We are on the surest of theological grounds in stating that because one of the primary ends of marriage is the sanctification of children, Christians who validly enter that state and put no obstacle in the way are guaranteed, not only Sanctifying Grace, but a very special sacramental grace to enable them to sanctify their children.

I realize this post barely scratches the surface of the graces of Matrimony, but it makes me excited to know that there is so much to learn, and how happy and hopeful that makes me!  Knowing there is help from Heaven to raise my kids brings me peace of mind.

May God bless all parents and children throughout the world!

(All quotes were taken from A Parent’s Blueprint for Making Youth Holy” by Fr. Daniel Egan, S.A. It is part of a larger work published in 1956 titled “Sanctity and Success in Marriage”…I will have to search for that later! I highly recommend reading the entire article – he lays out 6 qualities of holy parents, and it is overall very encouraging.)

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