The Greatest of These is Love

For as long as I can remember, I have known that God loves me. However, I have misunderstood why for almost as long.

I have thought, “God loves me because I am Catholic. Because I go to Mass. Because I’m trying to be ‘good’. Because I follow the rules.” But this kind of thinking eventually led me to get confused when lots of sin entered my daily life. Face to face with habitual sin, I started to doubt that God loved me, because now, I didn’t feel like the “good” girl anymore. How could God forgive me for the same things, over and over again? How could I possibly believe God loved me, when all I saw in myself was unworthiness of His love?  I started to feel that after all the wrong things I did, God must be sick of me coming for forgiveness, again. Terrible thoughts, I know, but that’s where I was a year ago.

By the grace and inspiration of God, last year my dear husband suggested to me that I go on a retreat. He had vacation time already scheduled, and I wondered how it was going to be possible to find anything in that one-week time frame.  I was excited when I found a retreat only 3 hours away that was to be given by the Sisters of Life, and the theme for the retreat was “The Greatest of the These is Love.”

I did not know what to expect when I arrived, but I left knowing that my life had been put back on the right path. I say this because the Sisters and the priests there helped me to finally realize that God loves me because He created me; I am His creation and He loves me.

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I think my confusion came from mis-reading the catechism question “Why did God make me?” to be the the same as “Why does God love me?”  So when I read the answer, “To know Him, love Him, and serve Him,” I misunderstood it to mean that God loves me because I know Him, love Him and serve Him.  I can’t explain why or how I could think this for so long;  I can only thank God that some of the confusion is over!

Yes, God made me to know Him, love Him, and serve Him.  But, He loved me before I could even do any of those things, because He loved me before I was even conceived!! Here are words spoken by Jesus Himself, to Sr. Mary of the Trinity (1901-1942):

It is not on account of your qualities that I love you, or on account of your virtues, if you had any.  If you had any virtue, you would owe it to Me.  Your own part would consist merely in having received My gift…It is not because of your defects or sins that I love you. It is because I have given you life, and because I continue to give it to you each day.  And it is because I have redeemed you at the price of so much suffering. Because I am Love, I cannot cease communicating to My creatures the joy of loving!  The joy of sharing My happiness!

God is Love.

But what happens when I sin?  Does God not love me anymore?  Will God ever tire of forgiving me? I found the following quote that puts my mind at ease every time I read it.  It is Jesus speaking to Sr. Josefa Menendez (1890-1923):

I love those who after a first fall come to Me for pardon…I love them still more when they beg pardon for their second sin, and should this happen again, I do not say a million times, but a million million times, I still love them and pardon them, and I will wash in My Blood their last as fully as their first sin.

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Another discovery made on this retreat was that each of us has an amazing potential to have a personal relationship with God. I will never forget one of the Sisters saying, “Our sins are not unique, but the love we give to God is. The priests in the confessionals have heard the same sins confessed over and over.  Nothing new there!  There are no unique sins, but there can be unique love. Your love, the way you love God, is your love to give, and He will never receive it from anyone else in the exact way that you could give it.”

I wish every soul to understand that she has her special place in My Heart which awaits her; that her love is necessary to Me, and her cooperation necessary – that I need to see her happy and perfect – because I have loved her even to dying on the Cross for her – yes, each soul.

-Jesus to Sr. Mary of the Trinity

In honor of St. Valentine, I invite you to be receptive to the infinite love of God. Trust that He loves you unselfishly because Jesus died for you, and return His love in a way that only you can.

There are many Christians who do not even know why they are in the world. “Oh my God, why have You sent me into the world?” “To save your soul.” “And why do You wish me to be saved?” “Because I love you.” The good God has created us and sent us into the world because He loves us; He wishes to save us because He loves us…. To be saved, we must know, love and serve God. Oh, what a beautiful life!

– from the Little Catechism of St. John Vianney

Can Busy Moms Aid the New Evangelization?

Short answer: Yes!

Immediate follow-up question: How?

I’ve been reading many articles recently that mention or talk in-depth about the New Evangelization. I’ve listened to podcasts and radio shows that discuss how to be a part of it.  I’ve come to the understanding that it essentially means re-converting Catholics who aren’t practicing their faith.  (Or catechizing Catholics who are going to Mass, but misunderstand the Church’s teachings.)

As I do dishes and laundry, I wonder what my part is in all this. I’d like to help bring back a fallen-away Catholic…somehow. But weeks go by, and then another article or radio show reminds be that I should be doing…something.

After searching the web and re-reading some articles, I did find some answers to my two questions:

How can I, a busy Mom of four boys under six, be a part of the New Evangelizaion and bring more souls to the Catholic Church?

What are some concrete ideas for leading someone back to the faith when my time outside my home is very limited?

1. Stay focused on nurturing my domestic Church and teaching my own children the Faith.  This is my most important duty as a parent and it deserves top priority. It is so easy for me to forget how much I am actually doing to give the Church strong, faithful Catholics, when I feel like most of my time is spent doing never-ending chores. But then I remember: in reality, most of my day is discipling and teaching my children. Modeling my own love of God is another huge part of my responsibility. Which leads to:

2. Pray – every day.  One of the first questions in the examination of conscience for married couples on the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops website is “Have I prayed every day (15-20 minutes)?” I found the suggested amount of time interesting because 15-20 minutes must be considered the minimum amount of prayer a married person should be able to do. Finding time for daily prayer is one of my mini-goals for February, so I’m excited that this lines up with what is already planned for next month.

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3. “Spread the gift of faith through example and friendship,” says Philip Lawler, in his book When Faith Goes Viral: 11 Success Stories of the New Evangelization from Alabama to Vladivostok.  Lawler explains that when we pray for our family, friends and neighbors, we should be considering if any of them might be open to becoming Catholic. If someone comes to mind, we deepen the friendship with them a little more, and eventually ask sincerely and respectfully, “Have you ever thought of becoming a Catholic?” Be open to the guidance of the Holy Ghost for the right time to ask that question (hopefully to many people) throughout your lifetime. If your friend is a fallen-away Catholic, then it is good to know that one study found that 90% of fallen-away Catholics that returned to the Church said that they were “just waiting for an invitation to come back.”

4. Talk about the faith with non-Catholic family members, friends, and neighbors with joy, and practice what you preach.  What I mean here is that we need to talk positively about how we live our lives as Catholics. If our neighbors hear us complain too frequently about the annoyances of having lots of kids, or about having to go to give up something for Lent, then they might wonder why on earth you are even Catholic.  You could miss an opportunity to spread the faith. Also, we should set a good example by not swearing or telling (or even laughing at) impure jokes. When the neighbors instinctively apologize for swearing, I take that as a compliment.

5. Invite family, friends, and neighbors to our home. Let them see an example of a happy, solid, Catholic family life.  It’s easy to take for granted how appealing a faith-filled life is to those who don’t have faith in their lives at all.

6. Intentionally welcome new-comers to our Chapel. The Brothers and Sisters at the Chapel my family attends are great examples of this. If there is a new couple, someone approaches them, welcomes them, and introduces them to other families that are in a similar phase of family life (all little ones, all in high school, etc.) I’m usually introduced to the new-comers by the religious, but taking the initiative and breaking the ice is something I can definitely try to imitate in the future. Here is a quote from an article by Fr. Paul Soper found in the December 2013 Station of the Cross Newsletter that is very helpful:

Our Parish Evangelizers [you can think of yourself as one for the moment] need to learn to exercise radical hospitality.  They need to learn to greet people as they come in to Church.  They need to learn to intentionally welcome people they don’t know.  They need to take on a new identity – when they come to Mass, they need to think not just about what they gain in coming, but also about how they might change the life of someone else who may be just coming back, and for whom they themselves might be the first face of the Church for a person who has been away for decades.

In summary: I need to focus on imparting the faith to my children, pray every day, be hospitable to all, and be open to the promptings of the Holy Ghost so that I am ready and willing to invite someone back to the Church by asking,

Have you ever thought of becoming a Catholic?

 

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